Tuesday, November 8, 2011

More than white clothes, candles and peace marches...


Hi back!

Like I said I didn't intend to write another post. As I started to write a response to a comment by Mr. Venkat Ganesh on my previous post. I figured it was so long that I made it a post of its own. So here it goes...

That's a good suggestion, Venkat. However, it's inefficient on its own.
Awareness programs do happen everywhere, all the time. And if our Government was the kind that took actions, well, our country would have been in a very different condition all together.
To cause a change of such a stature would require a long, continuous and combined effort...

Young boys and girls, each and every one of them should be educated. As far as I know, the eve-teasers and murderers in this case too, were uneducated, lawless men. Education puts a fear of the law, as mild as it may be, in the minds of people. So if the same men were educated enough, probably, they would have stopped for one second before stabbing the two boys to death. But of course, they didn't give a damn about the law, didn't have a care for the lives of people; just plain, fearless, drunk attitude to stab anyone who comes in their way to do what they wish to do. Even if it might be the most inhuman, cheap, outright disgusting act.
So yes, step one would be education.

My second suggestion would have been awareness, but what are we going to make both, men and women, aware about? Well, attitudes don't change by listen to some random person talk about ethics, or watching a "informative" film. So here I'm going to state the almost impossible. We  need help from the government and law enforcing bodies in the country. Did you just laugh? Well, I did say it was impossible, almost.

The society is a cycle. You want rules and laws, establish a government. You want them to enforce those laws, ask them. After a few years or decades, you become lazy and don't bother checking up on them. They happen to be glad you just did the same. And that's how we get stuck in the rut.

So if we want the government to do something, a) let's try to get them to do something about it. They must be corrupt or lethargic, but somehow I'd like to believe they wouldn't want women or men to get harmed this way. After all, it could be someone from their families as well, no?
And of course, whether or not we demand of it, the government should be sensible enough to DO something about it. Seriously. They eat our taxes, spend it on building statues and empires for themselves, build colleges that guarantee their whole friend circles' kids admissions. Seriously dear cops and politicians, at least keep us SAFE? Keep the money if you like. I can earn my money and give away some, as charity or tax, whatever (same thing, no? Or wait, charity helps.); but I don't see how I can protect myself or my friends from a situation like this.

So summing it up:

a) EDUCATE people. Boys, girls, mummies, papas, kakas, kakis, nanas, nanis, bhai log, behen log, EDUCATE them all. I, for one, education and knowledge can change a person, the society, the whole wide world. It is one of the most powerful tools the state's nannies can use to build a good population.

b) ACT. The government should act. Do what they can at the very least. Alert cops, traffic police, or any other civil servant to be at the service of any fellow human being in trouble. Furthermore, create punishments and put them to force in a way that not just a human, but even an alien would think a million times before doing anything ethically and morally unsound.
c) Lastly, I'll reach the heights of being philosophical by quoting apna very own bapu, Mahatma Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi.
"Be The Change You Want To See "
This is the most important action we can take ourselves. We don't know for sure whether the civic bodies would do anything or whether education would truly stop a person from being a criminal of any nature, but the least we could do is not be dumb, mute and blind to something like this. You see something wrong on the street, Stop and Ask what it is. Don't pass by without doing anything. I think not doing anything in situations like these make us as guilty as the criminals themselves. After all, watching and doing a crime happen at the same place and the same time, don't they?

So well, that is what I think can be done. Of course, like I said, the society and change in it is a cycle. A lot of efforts would have to be made in a lot of areas by a lot of people (hopefully everyone).

Hope you aren't the one who puts on black sunglasses and walks out on a crime scene; and are the one who helps(or at least call the cops).

Au revoir,
Miss Bee.

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Sunday, November 6, 2011

What's more than white clothes, candles and peace marches...?

Hello!

A long time it has been... I've been away from technology because I have been drowned into maths books, preparing to giving the stinking CAT exam next week. So excuse me, won't you?
I had absolutely no plans of writing (or doing anything fun at all *sob*) till I got done with my exam. However, recent events just didn't let me stay put and I had pour my thoughts out somewhere. And where else would that be?

Of course, the event I'm talking about is the event everyone else is talking about (at least everyone aware). The "eve-teasing in Mumbai", the "Justice for Keenan and Reuben" and all the other names this miserably doleful situation has been called out with.
In summary, two boys were brutally stabbed for saving their girl-friends from eve teasing by a drunk man along with his aides, a bunch of rickshaw-wallahs and other brutes.
(Read the link for the detailed story: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10150880654735538&set=p.10150880654735538&type=1&theater )

Of the many things this incident makes me realize, one is that how easily it could have been me. It could have been me with my bunch of friends after just another casual dinner out. We probably wouldn't have even realized when things could have gone wrong. Friends protecting us in one minute, stabbed to death in another. What could we have done? What would we have done? What should we do if that happens? Are three of the many questions this thought brings up in my mind.

Of course, my family would give me a solution to this. "Don't go out at night. We told you it's not safe."  So now I should sit at home with fear of my modesty and the safety of my life and of those with me?

The second thing I realized is how numb we have already become. If you have read my previous posts, you know I was called "rasmalai" by some random stranger near a railway station. So I was just another girl used to the fact that random people call us girls such names or catcall when we're around. Moreover, we might as well have been glad they did that (Catcalling is better than being groped, inst it?!) *sigh* I am bemused by own reaction. I found 'rasmalai' funny, instead of realizing that I was just eve teased, yet another time, without doing anything about it.

With time, most have us have used and abused the mantra 'Ignorance is Bliss'. In these cases, it just seems like the thing to do. The judicial system doesn't seem any effective; clearly people around don't help; obviously, we aren't strong enough to over-power a bunch of men or even one drunk man. And of course, avoiding a tough situation is better than being in a messy one later. Nauseating, isn't it?

I know these questions and thoughts are in most people's minds. I wish it was different. But where lies the solution?

The third thing I realized is when I started getting broadcasts and messages on my cellphone, on my Facebook homepage, on twitter and every other imaginable communication tool. Come let's wear white, hold a candle and chant seems the thing to do. Don't think my sarcasm says I don't support it. I think peace marches are the most peaceful and gracious things to do by us. But let's learn from our experience. Where has it lead us? After miles of experience, I don't see a march having lead to a strong, permanent change.
So here what I ask the readers is, what is the solution? I'm ready to be a part of any movement, but would it even lead to even 0.01% change in the society (see, I've been doing math). Will it make me feel,even if for a millisecond, that I can go out safe whenever I want? Is there ANYTHING out there common people, like you and I, can do to cause an effect? Do tell, because I'm game for it.

I'm waiting to see what the police or the government does about this whole situation. I fervently hope at least one of those hooligans is punished. (Hope. Ha-Ha.) Anyway.

RIP Kennan and Reuben.
Hope people around me are as courageous as you were.

Au revoir,
Miss Bee.

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